In college I would gain more freedom but still I hadn't reached any of those milestones that I thought would make me feel like an adult. It's possible that when I was in college I may have even regressed some because I could truly just do whatever I felt like doing:
|F<3ck Yeah! - by The Chung!|
Horrible diet all the time? sign me up!
Walk of shame? Who hasn't!
Learn your limits the hard way? Of course!
Party all night before you have to give a presentation, wake up and run to class in the rain wearing flip flops and the bathing suit that you slept in for some reason? F<3ck yeah!
I didn't have to check in with anyone and as long as I got passing grades... What else really mattered?
My First Real JobWhen I got my first real job I knew I had started my career. I was proud to finally feel like I could afford to do the things I wanted and had some real responsibilities at work. But I still played around at work, when I got bored I would spend hours coming up with and executing practical jokes on coworkers to entertain myself. I think my boss appreciated the fun it injected to the office but I'm still not sure how efficient he thought I was.
|It's amazing what you can do with a few rolls of tin foil!|
I Bought A HouseSurely becoming a home owner would make me feel grown up wouldn't it. It was one of those big milestones that people looked forward to, you were no longer a renter and I was building "equity"... Nope. I was rooted, I had a mortgage, but still nothing had really switched inside of me to make me feel much different than I did before I had bought a home. I was still just following the standard template of what I should be doing as I grew older.
In time my friends would start getting married, some were having kids, but for me... I just had pets, I started with ferrets and moved up to a dog eventually. Sometimes people would comment on how responsible I was for having already saved for a house but I viewed it differently. If I really wanted to, I could sell my house and move on. Sure it would be a pain in the ass, but I could do it. If they wanted out of their marriage that's not so easy, that's like one of those "forever maybe" decisions that takes a judge and court papers to get out of. The way I looked at it, I was the one that hadn't made any permanent decisions in my life yet.
When It HappenedI always thought the day I would feel grown up would be some strange life changing event, like getting married or kids. Well I'm not married, and I don't have kids, but I do feel more like an adult. It wasn't because I was no longer the youngest person at my job anymore. It was something so mundane that I almost feel like I was robbed of a moment that I was looking forward to for so long...
I was at home watching TV after work one day and I realized that I knew a lot more questions on Jeopardy! than I ever thought I would. Growing up I was always frustrated with the show, half of the categories were about things that happened before I was born, and the others just were things I was unfamiliar with. But now, time had changed that. Having a lot of international travel under my belt and just remembering pop culture or events from growing up I realized I knew a lot more of the answers.
Suddenly I felt like an adult. It was something I had looked forward to for so long, and when the day finally came I felt disappointed. The day that I had hoped would be celebrated as a milestone was about as exciting as ... Well, sitting at home with your parents watching Jeopardy and reading about your friends carpal tunnel on Facebook. Ugh. How did things change so suddenly and without warning.
When did you start to feel like an adult? Was there any particular event?