Anyways, last Thursday my manager brought me into a conference room to tell me that he was leaving our team, and that the Account Director (his boss) had decided to put.... We'll call him "Buddy", into the newly vacant position. He was merely telling me of the decision to see how I would feel about this change.
I guess you could say that no one expected my reaction. I flat out said that I would be angry and disappointed with that change and that I would be interested in being considered for the position myself.
Normally you see, I don't react like this at work. In fact, I usually don't show much emotion at all at work, I'm sort of like a robot in that aspect (perhaps that's why I've been told I would be a good manager in the past). But the reason I was so angry and upset with the decision is because just 3 and a half months ago I trained the person that they were going to give the position to. If it had been someone else at the company that had been there a long time I wouldn't have had any issues with the decision but someone that I recently trained made me feel looked over.
Another reason this irked me was that "Buddy" had worked with the Account Director at a previous job and that was the reason he came to the company in the first place. So it felt like a good serving of favoritism was being dealt here.
Anyways, my manager said that he would let the Account Director know how I felt about it and that he was sure that someone would get back to me on what was going to happen. Later that evening I wrote to the Account Director and gave a more detailed reason as to why I should be considered for the position. I cited that I was the longest standing member on the team in this particular role, I rattled off 4 major accomplishments that I did for our team that were major pain points, and how I mentored half of our newer team members who still look to me for direction.
It didn't work.
Monday I was offered a promotion to Senior Developer but it was still not the position I was after. I'm pretty sure that they knew they were in the wrong, that I had proved myself, but they gave it to "Buddy" because they had already promised him the position. Thus they needed to offer me a smaller promotion since I was already doing the work for that role and because they knew they needed to work on damage control.
It's funny how at this time last week, I wouldn't have cared about reaching that position but now that I was blatantly being passed over for it I just want to raise hell.
Time to Get VindictiveAll the advice I found for what to do if you are "passed up for a promotion" said things like: stay cool, don't make any big decisions, don't vent to your peers.
|Free Hugs by Joan Cornella|
First, I talked to someone else at the company that is on a similar level as the Account Director, I explained the changes that had happed to the team and how I felt I was passed up and asked for her input on next steps I could take. She agreed with me that if my goal was to get that particular position it would be worth talking to another group within the company that still had that position vacant.
Then I had a very candid discussion with the Account Manager where I stated that I wasn't happy with the decision, I didn't see a future for myself on the team, and that I wanted to transfer to another group within the company. He wasn't happy with what I was telling him, he tried to reason with me that I was better off staying with the current team yet could not provide me with any incentive besides "maybe in a year we might need a different lead role".
Yeah... And maybe in 4 months I could get exactly the role I'm looking for by switching to a different group instead of hoping the company creates new roles for people. In the meantime the Account Manager could not give me any specific advice on what I could work on so that next time an opportunity like this came up I would be better prepared. I'm guessing it's because he didn't have a reason not to give me the position....
Traditional advice works sometimes but don't be afraid to break it. Instead of playing it cool and "sucking it up" so to speak, I decided to get vindictive. Leaving my current team seems like best and most drastic option at the moment. But in the process it made many other people very aware of my aspirations within the company and I'm now currently working towards it.
I think that since I've had horrible bosses before and that I'm financially comfortable, I'm much more willing to speak up at work than most people. The consequences of ruffling feathers or being fired simply don't scare me anymore. In a way, I welcome the chance to collect the unemployment benefits that I always pay into.
Like I said, a week ago I wouldn't have cared about the position, but now that I was passed over for it my new goal is to get vindictive over it. I want to get that role elsewhere in the company just so I can go back to the Account Director and tell him to shove it.
Have you ever used spite as your motivation to succeed?